Gay and Racist
I’ve talked a lot lately about how ageist gay culture is. But what about race? The majority of images we see are not only young, but white. That in itself might not mean much, but any gay man of colour … Continued
Is Aging Harder for Gay Men?
I’ve been running a campaign asking men how they feel about aging. Is aging harder for gay men? Or, is that just a myth? Based on the number of men talking about their struggles it is at least partly true. … Continued
Sexual Identity
Our sexuality landscape is shifting. For millennials self-identifying is key. For many of us the idea is perplexing so I thought I’d explore it and shed some light on the advantages it can, eventually, bring us. It’s eventually because we’re … Continued
Our Role as Gay Elders
In a culture that throws away its elderly, in a community that thinks life is over at forty, how do we find relevance as gay elders? I propose that we move into the natural role that older members of communities … Continued
Finding Love in the Age of Grindr
This month I’m writing about finding a long-term relationship in a world where hookup apps are the norm. Not everyone is looking for a quick lay. Some men are bored with sex as sport, others are unsatisfied with the sex … Continued
Growing Up Gay
This month we’re going to talk about growing up gay contrasting what gay teens, and young men, are experiencing now with what I went through in the 70’s. Great strides have been made but, many accounts from young men tell … Continued
The Gay Guy’s Guide to Bi Guys
This month we’re talking about bisexual men. I’m not bi, but, I’m not a “gold star” (a gay man who has never slept with a woman) either. Many gay men use that term as a badge of honour. I think … Continued
Dating, Partnering, and Your Family
So you’re out to your whole family. Everyone is dealing. Some people are handing it better than you thought they would. Others, not so much. Accepting you is one thing, accepting your relationship may be another. Seeing you with another … Continued