My Success Stories
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Sometime Your Challenges are Your Allies
When Bill first called me I could almost feel the stress coming at me through the phone. “I’m really angry!”, he said, “Do you think you can help me?”
Even I was a little concerned about how we could move him out of RAGE, and into a life he wanted.
As we explored together he began to see sensitivity as an essential part of his makeup. It was a positive thing that he could use to help him instead of it getting him upset all the time.
As he learned to appreciate himself more, what used to seem like the root of all his problems, became a powerful ally.
He was a professional poker player and a musician. Embracing his natural sensitivity allowed him to be more intuitive when playing poker, and to win more. His performances became more powerful and heart-centered.
He also noticed that he was naturally attracted to people who were more positive and open with him, who appreciated how sensitive he could be.
Bill had tried a lot of things before, but he had never reached out and gotten help. Perspective on himself was what he needed to start finding the life he really wanted.
Transition Your Career on Your Terms
When Mike first got in touch with me he was desperate. He had recently lost his job and wasn’t sure what to do.
He knew that there were issues with his previous position, and employer. He didn’t want to repeat the same mistakes again. But, as the primary breadwinner in his family he had to consider reality.
Three kids headed for college in a few years and a partner whose business was suffering were a big burden for him.
We explored who he is, what he wanted out of life and a job, and how much he really needed to make in order to live at a reasonable level of comfort and security.
We also looked at his anxiety and helped him put his situation into perspective. Things weren’t really all that bad, not in the short term at least.
When he got out and started looking he found a couple of opportunities that he knew immediately weren’t good fits. I encouraged him to let them go and keep looking. When the right opportunity showed up Mike recognized it immediately.
He was so confident in himself that he accepted the job and THEN called me. He was thrilled that not only was it close to home, allowing him to be there for his family, but it was even more money than he was making at his last job.
Knowing himself and what he really wanted was key. Since then he’s changed jobs again and has an even better position.
Find Your Person
Ken is an awesome guy. When he first came to me he was looking to find a better life but didn’t know what it was.
As we explored his life we discovered that he was on track to figuring out some major changes but the only thing that was missing was a partner.
Sure he’d had a lot of boyfriends. Ken is tall, young, and good looking, with a personality that shines. But, after spending so many years as a party boy he was better at flirting than finding something serious.
We got him clear on what he was looking for. He met Randy for the first time when he was helping out at a friend’s restaurant where Randy was a regular.
He found himself being friendly but holding back on his usual “let’s see how quickly I can get this guy into bed.”. They got to know each other at the restaurant and eventually did a yoga class (Ken’s passion) and a meditation class (Randy’s) together.
They clicked. When Randy had to travel to the other side of the country to do his residency there was no question that Ken was going with him.
Ken still gets my help occasionally to manage the intensity of their relationship, but, they’re building a solid foundation.
Family Relationships Can be the Toughest
After thirty five years of hell Tom was ready to call it quits with his mother. He had tried everything to improve their relationship. It seemed that the only thing that could work was Tom pretending to be a completely different person than he actually was.
His mother was a confident woman with some very set ideas about how the world is, and what she wanted for her children. Tom was about as far from his mom’s ideal as possible.
The last thing Tom wanted was to become more like his mother. Who could blame him?
Rather than asking him to meet his mother half way, I helped him UNDERSTAND his mother better.
While, at times, his mother’s behavior was downright crazy, everything she was doing was coming from a place of concern for her son.
We looked at WHY his mother was behaving the way she was instead of what she was doing. That helped Tom to feel loved by his mother. It allowed him to appreciate some of his mother’s controlling behavior.
He was able to stand up to his mother in a more, positive, constructive way. Their relationship improved slowly, but surely.
Now that Tom is a parent he can appreciate how hard it can be to allow your children to be different from you.
Move Beyond Your Limitations Into the Life You Really Want
Andy was in his late forties when he came to see me. Everything in his life was ho hum. There was nothing really wrong, but, there was nothing really right either.
He was dating occasionally but never anyone he really liked. He had a good job but was bored and being passed over for promotions. He was living in a nice place but didn’t love the neighborhood and needed a room mate so that he could pay his mortgage.
Andy’s issue wasn’t that he was incapable. It was that he didn’t think he deserved better. He thought it was too late to change.
Andy was really invested in being average. We helped him look at himself in a new way, recognizing things he took for granted that were some of his most powerful traits. The areas where he really shined.
He began to care more about himself. As he took better care of himself he started to feel more confident.
He finally got that long-overdue promotion. He moved into a smaller place in a neighborhood he loves that he could afford on his own.
He’s dating less often now but only people he’s really interested in. So far no one has quite been who he’s looking for so he’s holding out for the right guy.
Andy proves that it’s never too late.